[00:00:07] This is Media Labs.
[00:00:47] Hey, guys, it's just me tonight.
[00:00:51] Alice isn't feeling very well, and so she kind of, like, needs to do a wellness check. So we want to send out positive vibes for her. But she will be back hopefully this week. If not, you know, she's here next week on our zany and fun Mondays.
[00:01:07] So in this episode, I felt like I wanted to reach out and say a few things to girls out there. It doesn't matter if you're in college or your high school.
[00:01:20] Doesn't matter. Or if you have a daughter that is, you know, in high school or college. I hope that you will pass this message out. I know that there's a lot of noise out there right now about sports, you know, in high school and college. And I felt like I wanted to touch on this so I could send a very, very clear and direct message to all young girls that are involved in sports, and they are trying to do everything they can to get the attention of scouts for those scholarships to go to college. On girls that are in college, that are in competition life, those are very important years because, you know, you're almost done. You're headed for real life, and those accomplishments are things that you have fought for.
[00:02:15] So I think it's important to acknowledge that this episode, I'm making a statement, my own opinion. But here's. Here's what I want to say.
[00:02:27] I'll start with girls in school, high school.
[00:02:31] I tried to think positively that this isn't going on in grade school, I hope, because I'm trying to have a little bit of faith left.
[00:02:42] You can let me know if I'm wrong.
[00:02:46] So what I want to say to you is I know that things are very confusing in sports for girls right now, and things are weighing heavy on you. It might feel like damned if I do, damned if I don't.
[00:03:04] And I feel like you need to have some insight from my perspective, because I don't think you're getting that.
[00:03:13] So in life, we have choices, right? We have destinies, I guess we want to chase. We have ideas we want to mimic into reality, right? And that's all of us.
[00:03:27] And that's a good place to be, because as kids, that's what we're supposed to do, is dream and strive and try to succeed.
[00:03:33] But it seems like lately the entire conversation is circled around trans girls. I'm using air quotes on sports teams in college and high school. I know some of you have chosen to completely forfeit entire games.
[00:03:51] I'm not entirely sure that's a good idea.
[00:03:54] Let me explain.
[00:03:57] Some of you have left competition because the other individual was, they say, trans.
[00:04:03] So hear me out.
[00:04:05] So in those choices that we can make in school, those choices we can make in our life, it now seems to affect everyone in a different way. And everything is sitting different now on people.
[00:04:17] You open your mouth, you're chastised for your true feelings. You don't you feel cheated. It was tough enough for my generation.
[00:04:26] I know how hard it was for a back then to fit in, especially girls. Not every girl fitted in.
[00:04:33] There's those wayward moments where the wrong move, when we get lost, the wrong action, and we are chastised in school. And that's been true for girls since the dawn of time in school.
[00:04:47] High school's the worst.
[00:04:48] Everybody's a pain in the ass. But what I want to say is I don't think that you're entirely wrong how you feel.
[00:04:55] And I don't mean to say in any way that you do have fault. I'm not saying that 100%. What I'm getting at is those choices that we make in life. It's either or.
[00:05:06] Because a lot of times we can't do both because it's not how the real world works. And discovering that in high school is part of discovery, of growing and changing. We can't get everything that we want. I have questions about actions that take place and I'm trying to understand them. I have wonders. I have questions that needed to be asked. But I know none of you out there can ask them, certainly the way I would. You see, I think right now a lot of people are right that calling people trans is a social construct.
[00:05:40] Actually, me, I'm organic. I was made from myself. I was made from the proper knowledge and ingredients that used to quantum pie. If I said that right, my existence and identifying those identifying markers. And it used to be very rigid back then to be able to say that.
[00:06:07] And it has been completely watered down.
[00:06:12] I'm hearing more and more stories about people that are confronted with a different reality and that perspective is pushed on them. It is called propaganda.
[00:06:24] And because of that social construct that exists today, especially, it was very prevalent on campuses. You are being cheated.
[00:06:33] I don't know how to say it any other way. You are being cheated. Because here's the question that you should say. But I know a lot of you can't, because I don't want you to be in any danger if you in fact are trans. And I'm talking to you, if you're listening and you're young.
[00:06:48] I understand the need to fit in and I understand the want to experience it in a, you know, teammate and teammate kind of experience in sports. But let me tell you this.
[00:07:02] What exactly gives you the right for you to decide how all these other people should feel?
[00:07:10] I'm just curious, what about how they feel?
[00:07:14] And did you ever think for one second that maybe you're making them uncomfortable?
[00:07:19] Because the truth is, if you respected those girls feelings and the fact that you make them nervous and uncomfortable in those environments inside locker rooms, why wouldn't you just simply ask by going to your coach and your principal to make arrangements for separate accommodation?
[00:07:36] Because respectfully, that's what you should be doing.
[00:07:40] Not making young girls nervous and scared to change and feeling uncomfortable. Because you see, it's not just your world, they don't exist for you.
[00:07:49] And the other thing to you is it's one or the other, bro.
[00:07:54] You can either play sports and the love of sports in competition, or you can be hellbound to decide and figure out your fate as an individual if you aren't truly trans and step away from sports and stop making people uncomfortable.
[00:08:14] Because girls know what girls know.
[00:08:18] And when you're feeling a little creepy, you might just be because you're creepy.
[00:08:24] So I'm trying to understand how all these girls need to feel this certain kind of way, but they can have no say so whatsoever. I'm just asking you to explain that because you can't. It's hard as young girls have it in school today in that environment, which clearly is so much worse than my generation, your parents generation, that should have told you how uncomfortable it used to be for girls in situations that perhaps maybe weren't developed, or some girls that were overdeveloped because both of them get stared at equally.
[00:08:57] That's just the facts in locker rooms, outside of locker rooms, when they're dressed.
[00:09:03] So imagine how all these girls feel when you're in their space.
[00:09:07] And because you decide to say you're labeled as something, you are something, and yet you're making all of them uncomfortable. So no, they shouldn't have to feel that way actually, because it's not about you. If you want the world around you to be about you, then go do your world.
[00:09:24] But you don't get to do it to these young girls and they don't have any say.
[00:09:30] And to the girls out there, I give you that question.
[00:09:34] If someone is who they say they are and they're making you uncomfortable, why can't they simply make accommodation to change elsewhere?
[00:09:41] Issue Solved.
[00:09:43] So I say to you, if someone has this, pardon my language, hard on about being in a locker room with you while they call themselves something, and they're clearly not, because most likely they're not on a stitch of estrogen or hormone replacement therapy or any of the other problem, any of that stuff, which is, by the way, not your problem.
[00:10:01] And it shouldn't be.
[00:10:03] To each their own. But you also don't deserve to have your space invaded straight up by these individuals are making you uncomfortable. It's unnecessary pressure, it's unnecessary drama. All of it's actually quite unnecessary. And when I say, because I believe it's a social construct, in most cases today I didn't. Every but most, it has just completely gotten away from society and no one understands it. So, no, I don't think you're transphobic because it makes you nervous and you don't want to change in front of someone. No, I don't. That's not what makes you transphobic. If you're listening to this, you're definitely not.
[00:10:42] How could you be? I just think that it's time that some of these things are said for you in your favor. And I don't think you should also be forfeiting an entire game because the other opposing team has a trans player.
[00:10:59] And I understand your feelings. I. I really do.
[00:11:03] But everything you worked for, you're gonna bail. I understand. Maybe some of you look at it as principle, but you have to look past that. You have to.
[00:11:13] Because it's your game. You came to play, you practice to play.
[00:11:18] Don't give up on what you love and what you want.
[00:11:22] That's what you shouldn't be doing in the face of it all. Make it clear, okay? We're not going anywhere.
[00:11:29] That's what you need to do. I don't want to see you forfeiting games.
[00:11:32] Now, if it's between you and someone else, let's say the whole fencing debacle, I don't get it.
[00:11:40] Fencing is fencing.
[00:11:42] I don't understand maybe this strategic advantages. Because you both have masks on, so you don't need to know each other anyway. But okay, if that's what made her feel good and got her on tv, okay. But that's just me. But I don't think some of you should be forfeiting entire games.
[00:12:03] You know, the situation that happened in the volleyball game and when the girl was present at the president's joint session speech, I really felt for that girl.
[00:12:16] I have been vocal about how I feel about it and the parts that I have been vocal on about were the fact that I never heard of any kind of press conference called where the individual apologized for cracking her head open or made a statement that it wasn't meant to be like that, it was in the spirit of game and it got carried away. Any of those statements. I never heard about any of those. Now, anyone out there listening that does know about these statements, please forward them to our email, which you can find on our
[email protected] so that I'm clear.
[00:12:50] But to my knowledge, that's never happened. So how do you crack someone's head open with a ball saying it wasn't meant to be that way? And you're. You apologize.
[00:13:02] I don't get it. Because that would be in the spirit of the game as well. You know, I've talked to girls that things like that have happened on soccer or volleyball, you know, tournaments, and they've said how they went to the other individual and after the game and said, I'm sorry, and made sure they were still okay.
[00:13:22] Because you hit somebody in the head with a volleyball going what, 10 miles an hour? Ish. I mean, hypothetically. Or soccer, and you crack someone's shin. No one means to do those things unless you're grown men and they don't care.
[00:13:38] But no one means to do those kinds of things. And the right thing to do in sportsmanlike is to come forward and say my apologies and make sure they're okay.
[00:13:45] But again, to my knowledge, I've never heard this person did that. And I'm still angry about it. You know, people try to polish things up and smooth it over, but unless you look at both sides kind of like people that like to deny, people that have destransitioned, that's a thing. And trans regret, which is an even bigger thing. Or the suicide rate, because it's true, the suicide rate is high.
[00:14:12] Because once you plant this seed and then the emotion takes over and they swear by it, and then when they begin to deal with the ramifications of that decision, it can drive them to drastic measures that cannot be undone, such as ending their own life.
[00:14:30] But no one wants to talk about the dark side of it. I know about the dark side of it, and I'm grown.
[00:14:36] And it is scary unless you understand everything you're doing and someone's there to walk you through that world. All you little protesters on campuses, you're not there to walk them through that process. And most of them, you know what they are, they're boys playing a game with a Wig on. Yes, you are. Yes you are. Yeah, you are. And you can get mad all you like, but that is the truth.
[00:14:58] I've seen videos of you attacking Turning Point usa. You've. You've attacked Officer Tatum on campuses and I don't care about Charlie Kirk. But yeah, that's what you've done. I've seen it.
[00:15:12] You don't want competition and conversation because you can't.
[00:15:17] And you can scream all you want to all day long, little white girls that yes, you know who you are and you're non binary and trend and transgender and lesbian all wrapped up into one. I think you need help and you need a lot of it and you need it quickly. I think you should take a sabbatical from school and get that help.
[00:15:37] Or just unenroll, period.
[00:15:40] Because you are failing yourself.
[00:15:43] You're embarrassing yourself and society is beginning to tire of you and your rhetoric because you'll be anything but a white girl. I'm just saying, you know, girls have it really, really rough. High school, outside of high school college, women have it rough. But those years in high school are so important and you only get four years of them. Even though it's not the real world. It's kids stuff. But kids stuff is hard as shit to navigate when you're a kid because you don't get it. One year you're up, the next year you're down. One semester you're popular, the next one you're not. You know, the wind blows in and someone gets and fresh breeze of air up their ass and they've decided they're gonna take your spot. Yeah, I know all that shit still exists. But you have it much worse than we did because you have social media to help destroy you. We had the phone on the wall while we all laid on the floor.
[00:16:43] So yeah, you have it much worse than we did.
[00:16:46] Ask your mothers if they'll tell you the truth.
[00:16:49] For some of you, I think you need to go further than your mothers because you think you're transgender and you're natural born female.
[00:16:59] Oh, you kids.
[00:17:01] God, you got to be center of attention all the time.
[00:17:04] Make sure you're seen. Cuz otherwise you're invisible. And you don't like that because you cannot shine on your own two feet.
[00:17:14] You know who you are, get mad, leave me a bad review, I don't care because I'm going to keep doing this.
[00:17:21] But I think it's also important to let girls know something.
[00:17:24] And I learned this the hard way, and that is each girl is unique and each girl is beautiful and special.
[00:17:33] And every day she has parents that wrap their arms around her.
[00:17:38] And while love is not a feeling that we feel 24, 7, not even grown. Get used to it. You don't need hugs all the time. Sometimes you need to go outside, climb a tree, go sit by the water, take a walk in the woods and. And you need to know you so you can defend you. Girls are all shapes and sizes. Some girl blossom early, some girls don't blossom at all. And then boom, right out of high school, you blossom and you burst and everything starts filling out. And others we have all that chubby weight. And then also we hit high school and boom, it's gone. That's just biology. It doesn't make anybody any less or any more.
[00:18:16] Sometimes when your self esteem is stepped on, it does help you move through life easier in school. And that's a true story. But you've got to learn how to stand on your own two feet.
[00:18:29] Because every girl is unique and different. And every girl is beautiful, each individually in her way. It's no different than when you're a grown woman.
[00:18:39] You may not be for one man that you really like, but you might be for a man.
[00:18:45] That's what you need in life.
[00:18:48] There's a difference.
[00:18:50] Again, I'll refer you to asking your mother. Ask your mom, see if your dad was it or he was the one that she needed to be with.
[00:18:59] You should check that shit out. Because my mom, she sent her crush when they were young, she sent him packing and he came back later on in life and married her. And he did the right thing and he did right by her because she set him free and she let it be known. I won't take anything less than what I deserve and neither should any of you. You have so much to offer the world if you just understand.
[00:19:23] Get through fucking school and be done with it. Be done.
[00:19:28] Head off to college and be done with that shit. It is adolescence reborn, by the way. When you hit college because you're free, parents aren't around, you're on your own.
[00:19:38] But you still need to be responsible.
[00:19:40] Okay? And I think you know what I'm saying. Be responsible with your body, Be responsible with yourself. Be responsible with your sex nobody likes a shopping cart list from a woman. You get what I'm saying?
[00:19:56] So don't be a shopping cart to other men.
[00:20:01] All men, all the time.
[00:20:03] Okay? But in the meantime, I want all of you to understand that you're uniquely beautiful. And it is astounding what you're able to capture innovate and do. And it's not, oh, this is modern. It's not back then, you know what? Girls were in the move in the 80s and 90s. Because I'm an 80s baby. So in the 90s, yeah, they were doing it.
[00:20:25] They were doing it. And you may not realize this because maybe you don't capture the understanding of what we were like, but in all honesty, without technology that you use as a crutch, we were dynamic as shit back then because you wouldn't have the world you do without them. Those innovative girls with minds and thinkers that got into health, science, math.
[00:20:49] You might laugh at a mathlete, you might think it's dumb that they're on those teams, but those are the smartest decisions they'll probably ever make that will change the course of their life. It's no different than a spelling bee. It's really not. Doesn't matter if you win. It matters what you learned out of that spelling bee. Because losing in competition, that is not in life can teach you something. And it's valuable.
[00:21:13] Use it, pay attention to it, embrace it. Not everybody gets a trophy, but what you do get is the chance to go on and fix what you didn't like the first time to get a trophy. If you get a trophy for participation, that is cool because I had some of those. I did. And that's a feel good thing. And it's nice because you participated. You got up, you stayed diligent, you stayed there, you stayed with it. And that's important too. Don't let anybody tell you it's not, because it is.
[00:21:43] But if you want to be up there with the two tiered trophy, a big tall booger like 12, 14, 16 inches or, or even bigger if your whole entire team wins big championship in whatever you're playing, softball, basketball, tennis, hockey, whatever, all those moves matter because for some those trophies inspire you to keep going.
[00:22:07] And even if you don't get one for participation, that should not send you into utter despair where you don't think you can do something because you can. You can do anything you put your mind to it. Maybe it won't happen for you in high school, but if you keep pushing, you can.
[00:22:23] You know, I went to school, when I was in high school, there was this awesome guitarist. He was spectacular. And this is, you know, the time of the rock battles of, you know, all the rock bands.
[00:22:37] Ac, dc, Metallica, Slaughter, Guns N Roses, White Snake, Great White, the whole, the whole nine yards.
[00:22:46] And do you know, because he was so powerful and stayed focused on his Decision to be the best he could be. And he didn't concern himself with other things in school.
[00:22:56] And he didn't care what people thought, that half one side of his head was shaved and he had long hair. He didn't care because you know what happened to that boy. He got the chance to play work out with Guns N Roses.
[00:23:08] Mm. Because we didn't have social media back then. But. But words got around and he went to competitions in different forums because he didn't busy himself with gossip and drama in school. And he got to practice with Guns and Roses. And I'm quite sure that he is living off the killing he made throughout his life over the past 20 plus years.
[00:23:30] Yeah. Because he did his own thing as an individual. Do not follow everyone else. Be your own light.
[00:23:39] Share the experience when it's time, but be your own light.
[00:23:43] And that's a beautiful thing. That's why I say, don't bail on an entire team.
[00:23:50] Don't bail on the chance that your team plays another team. Don't bail. Own that shit and say, okay, well, we're not going anywhere.
[00:24:00] It's okay to feel how you feel and agitated and irritated. Because, you know, quite honestly, I think you are being poked at, you know, and agitated. And I think they're doing it on purpose and they don't care. And that should tell you everything you need to know about their idea of womanhood and sportsmanship.
[00:24:16] Gain that knowledge from those times and those moments.
[00:24:21] But keep playing.
[00:24:22] That's your four years. That's your chance.
[00:24:26] Keep playing and do the most and protect each other and watch out for each other, because that's sportsmanship, and that's part of growth, and it gives you huge advantages in life as you grow and you come out here in the real world.
[00:24:40] If you can find a chance to embrace a transgender, they say air quote. On your team, do your best to try to connect and state how you feel to that person. Have something private meeting. Just keep it quiet. Not everybody needs to know. Find a corner when no one's looking after school and just have a conversation. And if the person isn't willing or wanting to, how come it wouldn't surprise me. Disappoints me, but it doesn't surprise me. But try to be the better individual. Try to be the better woman and reach across the aisle when you think you can. Even if you get shut down and turned down and laughed at and cussed out and everything else, keep going, keep going.
[00:25:26] Nothing should stop you. Just like nothing stops me from sitting here and doing this podcast and speaking out. Because me speaking out is about to get a whole lot louder here very soon. In the coming months, most likely after I return from my trip from North Carolina, I'm going to get much louder because I'm going to make it in front of Congress and tell the truth. Because we need that.
[00:25:50] There needs to be more representation that comes forward to tell the truth and the dynamics and the dangers of this life because a lot of people are failing to do so. And I don't like that. But I also want every girl out there to know you're unique and you're beautiful in your way and in your right and you should own it. If you haven't sprouted yet, girl, hang on, it's not that serious. And if somebody only wants you because you have sprouted or haven't, you might want to check on that shit before your daddy checks them. I'm just saying, because that is a whole thing.
[00:26:25] I want you to be brilliant. I want you to reach for everything that you want to do. Let nothing hold you back.
[00:26:32] And for all the parents out there, I hope you hear this and I hope that you'll reach out to me. If you go to the website daretobebold.net, you'll find my email.
[00:26:43] And if you got those questions and you want some answers, you just want to talk, that can happen because I'm open and willing to help and I know you guys are listening. I know you guys are out there and Alice and I both want that I probably a little bit more because I'm trying to find ways to calm the waters and unify my nation.
[00:27:05] Division is dangerous because then we're not paying attention to the important things and facts are important and those are things that need to be said.
[00:27:13] And that's why I'm here. I'll continue to be here, but I am going to get louder very soon.
[00:27:19] So you'll have to check out our tick tock. You know, Alice and I act obnoxious sometimes when we do episodes, but that is part of our stick, you know, it's part of what gives us the ability to not lose our minds and our heads and talking about some of these things because she knows how much they. It's maddening for me sometimes.
[00:27:38] I could be living my life and not even giving $0.01 of care about this, but I just reached a point where I couldn't do that. And I say that again to remind everyone again, I'm still here. But I can't do it alone. I do hope you'll stay with Media Labs and you continue to listen as you have and I appreciate you immensely.
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